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Calling all managers: how not to suck at coaching

Calling all managers: how not to suck at coaching

by Moyra Mackie on February 19, 2018

How many times in a week do you get asked for advice?

If you’re half-way good at your job, I’m going to guess that the answer is “frequently”.  If you’re quick to offer your advice I’m going to be blunt:  you’re not helping.

I’m going to argue that most people who ask for advice are really asking for clarity and for the confidence to make a decision.

And by clarity, I don’t mean clarity about knowing what you think or what you think should happen.  I mean clarity in the asker’s own mind.

Advice doesn’t give clarity or the confidence to act

These things are not in our power to bestow on others – they come from within.  Clarity and confidence come when new insights emerge, motivating the asker to act from their own conviction.
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Moyra Mackie

Moyra Mackie

Moyra Mackie helps leaders and teams to work with courage, compassion and creativity. She is an executive coach and consultant and the founder of Mackie Consulting.

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Coaches are not cheerleaders

Coaches are not cheerleaders

by Moyra Mackie on August 9, 2014

Disappointment is never a great emotion to experience.

A week or so ago I signed up to a webinar by a rather famous author and “life coach”.  More about those inverted commas later.

For $39 I was promised that I would find out what might be holding me back in my goal setting and career direction. O,r as she put it, “how to steer my career with purpose and passion”.

Whilst the realist in me knew that sitting listening to a motivational talk was highly unlikely to help me steer anything, the coach in me was curious about her promise that she would coach people on that call.

The chance to experience another coach – especially such a high-profile one – working with someone’s hopes, fears and doubts was tantalizing.

What kind of questions would she ask, how would she use silence and reflection, and what kind of presence would she bring to the encounter?

Most importantly, how would this coach help people to gain new insights to their familiar problems?

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Moyra Mackie

Moyra Mackie

Moyra Mackie helps leaders and teams to work with courage, compassion and creativity. She is an executive coach and consultant and the founder of Mackie Consulting.

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The other day I was stuck.

My friend and fellow coach, Andrew Jones, suggests you need a coach if you are stuck. Stuck with a problem, an opportunity or a plan.

I was stuck because I wanted to know how I could grow my company and stop working longer and longer hours for less and less reward.

Like many other coaching clients I had been stuck for some time without realising it. Once I became aware of it, of course I spent a lot of time thinking about what I might do and asking my trusted contacts what they would suggest.

And then I had the opportunity to be coached.

The only catch was that the coaching would last for just twenty minutes.

“Twenty minutes”, I thought. “We’ll never get anywhere. I’ve really thought about it, I know what all my options are.”

What can a coach do for someone like me, stuck like this?

What would YOU do if you were my coach? What would YOU ask if you only had twenty minutes?
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Moyra Mackie

Moyra Mackie

Moyra Mackie helps leaders and teams to work with courage, compassion and creativity. She is an executive coach and consultant and the founder of Mackie Consulting.

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